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10 Signs it’s Time to Let Go

2015/10/21

From Mark and Angel Hack Life

Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

The one thing you should never let go of is hope.  Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.  Someday all the pieces will come together.  Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated.  And you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How did I get through all of that?” Here are ten signs it’s time to let go:

  1. Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else.  It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not.  Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity.  It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.
  2. A person’s actions don’t match their words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow.  If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go.  It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company.  True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time.  Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do.  Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.
  3. You catch yourself forcing someone to love you. – Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us.  We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave.  That’s what love is all about – freedom.  However, the end of love is not the end of life.  It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.  If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it.  Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.  Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.
  4. An intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction. – Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance.  It’s about what you live for.  It’s about what defines you.  It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique.  It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly.  It’s about those little quirks that make you, you.  People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever.  But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.
  5. Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.  When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life.  Either way there’s a positive outcome.  Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do.  In the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you.  And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.
  6. Someone continuously overlooks your worth. – Know your worth!  When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.  There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there.  Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them.  Let them leave your life quietly.  Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on.  We think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do.  Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”
  7. You are never given a chance to speak your mind. – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it.  Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets.  Life is not about making others happy.  Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others.
  8. You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Know when to close the account.  It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.
  9. You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate.  Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.  The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen.  Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned.  It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.
  10. You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past. – Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain.  Eventually you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time.  After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story.  So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.

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6 Comments leave one →
  1. anon permalink
    2012/04/04 11:38 am

    As always, there is great wisdom in the thoughts expressed here. I do appreciate reading and absorbing this stuff – I live and die by philosophy.

    If it weren’t for the fact that I’d be viewing my life as “perfect”, I would dare to say that I have tried much of what is written here in my life and failed and tried again – only to repeat the cycle over and over again. I guess that’s what life’s about.

    I alone know how many times I have dreamt and hoped only to give up on dreams and lose hope and yet return to the cycle all over again. I alone know how many times I have envied those who seem to have it so easy that it seems that all they know in life is about walking the red carpet. I alone know how many times I give thanks and count my blessings and am indeed grateful for all that I have. I alone know that dreams are often the only way to keep the mind strong – sometimes it is all that I have.

    I alone know that I cannot forego my integrity as a person, for then I’ll lose all I have stood for in my life – and that will make me poor indeed.

    I also know that God tests all of us based on the strength of our faith and, although I may sometimes fail to represent myself in the best way due to the overwhelming injustice I face, this faith is what keeps me going.

    I also know that, with a little bit of help, I too can succeed. Even the basketball great Michael Jordon needed some help to win his 6 rings – he had Scottie Pippen and 4 other guys beside him working the ball up the court, blocking shots and doing the grunge work game after game.

    • 2012/04/04 2:51 pm

      You are very insightful and bring up some excellent points! We appreciate your feedback and encourage you to share your thoughts and feelings in the future, we’re also glad you referenced Michael Jordan, we had a quote from him in last weeks E-mail. Thanks you!

  2. 2012/04/05 3:33 pm

    This was superb. I learn so much from your writings. Thank you.

  3. StillHoping permalink
    2013/11/20 9:50 am

    I cannot put together the superlatives that this one deserves; suffice to say this is great stuff.

  4. Nancy Mercier permalink
    2013/11/20 1:41 pm

    Hope and Faith
    I truly enjoy readings these thoughts of the day; they have great insight, but also touch me in a number of ways. So many of them are so true and seem to appear when you’re having that kind of a day. They pick me up when I’m feeling down.

  5. 2014/07/18 12:29 am

    Greetings! Very useful advice in this particular post!
    It’s the little changes which will make the most important changes.

    Thanks for sharing!

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