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10 Things to Stop doing Right Now

2014/10/15

 

1“Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of.”

 

 

1) Complaining

The tone in which you speak has a lot of power, not just over others, but over yourself as well. Constantly whining over your problems will only make you feel worse about them and will drive others away from you – nobody wants to hang out with a Debbie Downer. If something is wrong, quit wasting your time moaning about it and put the effort into making the situation better. Sometimes we need to vent our frustrations to others in order to feel better about them. Every once in a while give yourself a few minutes to rant about everything that’s going wrong, then pick yourself up and get to work fixing it. You’ll feel instantly better for it.

2) Blaming

People make mistakes. It’s human nature. Work deadlines get missed, housework gets neglected, and toes get stepped on from time to time. It’s easy to put the blame on others and defer responsibility for these short comings, but it’s not really fair to others or yourself if you constantly plead not guilty to your failures. Owning up to your mistakes when things go wrong isn’t a sign of weakness – its’ empowering and strengthens you because it helps you learn from your mistakes and handle things better the next time the situation comes up.

3) Interrupting

This one should be a no brainer but you’d be amazed at how many people forget the simple common courtesy of waiting your turn in a conversation. Interrupting isn’t just rude – it sends out some pretty harsh social signals as well. When you interrupt someone what you’re really telling them is “I don’t care what you have to say, I was just listening to you long enough to decide what I wanted to say.” You wouldn’t want somebody else trampling all over your story about your adventures while backpacking through Europe, so keep your mouth closed and genuinely listen while they share anecdotes about their own lives. They’ll love you for actually taking the time to listen and you may even just find out that the people around you are a lot more interesting than you first thought.

4) Agreeing

Why do people so often say “yes” to things when they really want to say “no”? I know I am guilty myself of agreeing to take on responsibilities or obligations that I cringe about immediately after accepting. Then there are those that say yes to things and fake an interest to fit in better with a crowd. It’s human nature to want to be agreeable and fit in socially, but when your constant agreeing bogs you down with unwanted tasks and drowns out your own personal interests it’s time to draw the line. Don’t have time to watch your neighbor’s kids Friday night so they can go out? Really don’t like that new foreign art film everyone is raving about? Then say so! Saying no sometimes shows others you have a backbone and interests of your own.

5) Being Inconsiderate

We’ve all had a run-in from time to time with those inconsiderate people that put us in a foul mood for the rest of the day. People who cut you off in traffic, who cut in front of you in line, who say rude things, who take your parking spot, who hurt your feelings. You try to brush these things off, but it’s unfortunate that so many people are so inconsiderate. Likely, they aren’t trying to be rude – they just aren’t thinking of others. None of us are perfect, but taking the time to think of others before you act will save a few bruised toes in the long run.

6) Being Egotistical

If your co-workers threw a pen in your direction would it be pulled into orbit and circle you forever? Likely not. Chances are the world doesn’t revolve around you either, but sometimes we all need a little reminder of that. There will always be someone whose problems are greater than yours, who has more knowledge than you, and situations that are greater than yourself. The faster we get used to that idea the more comfortable we are in life.

7) Being Undependable

Everybody has that one person in their social circle that is consistently late, cancels plans last minute, is unreliable for returning your calls or texts in a timely manner – or sometimes just plain doesn’t return them at all. We may get angry with them over their flaky and undependable nature and feel it’s due to selfishness and being inconsiderate of others’ time, but it may just be a result of poor time management skills or a chaotic life. Whatever the reason, consistently proving yourself undependable will make others reluctant to rely on you or make plans with you so make an attempt to stick with plans you’ve made and follow through on promises.

8) Being preachy

Maybe you do have all the answers, but constantly interrupting those around you to point out mistakes and pushing your own point of view will only frustrate them. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion (even if it doesn’t match yours), so try to avoid hopping up on that soapbox and delivering a lecture every time the topic turns to one in which you differ on opinions. Its one thing to help someone along when they need a hand or correct them when they’re blatantly wrong, but always interjecting your personal opinions and ways of doing things will get old fast with others.

9) Butchering the English language

It’s said that English is one of the most difficult languages to learn. While proper English does contain many subtleties and contradictory rules, that shouldn’t give us a license to live in ignorance of them. With the advent of new technology and slang, the way we speak is rapidly evolving. It’s one thing to misuse the context of a few words here and there, but if every situation is “awesome” or “epic” it detracts from the meaning for when a situation really does leave you in awe. Not to mention consistent overuse of these ever-popular terms will make you sound silly and uninformed in your conversations with others.

10) Being petty

It doesn’t matter what age we are or how intelligent we may be, we can all be petty at times. We may not realize it right as it’s happening, but hindsight will usually tell us that we were unfair in a certain situation. When we aren’t being petty, we have more energy to focus on the things in life that are actually of importance to us. Let go of useless grudges you hold against the people in your life, don’t spend the rest of your commute into work being angry with the person who cut you off, and just in general learn to let go of the smaller incidents in life. You’ll be much happier for it.

 

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